Learn Your Love Language to Improve Your Relationships


Learn Your Love Language to Improve Your Relationships – 019


In this episode 019, we introduce our new challenge that is all about relationships and we will start by challenging you to practice the first love language which is words of affirmation.  We take a quiz to find out our primary love languages is and we even convince our spouses to play along! We will be using Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages. We answer the question: What is the greatest compliment you’ve ever received? and Why? I’m diggin’ an awesome movie and Jenny has been doing some DIYing and is diggin’ a tool that helped her build an awesome new desk.  Jenny’s win this week is about a perspective shift and I share a re-learn about accountability around exercise.


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What You’ll Hear (and don’t want to miss!)


1:14: We introduce both the new challenge for this month as well as our book that we are reading and basing this month’s challenge on.  This week we will focus on the first love language which is words of affirmation.

4:28: Who Are You Anyway?  Jenny and I share are primary love languages and we both share our husbands’ as well. 

10:20: Then in the second part of Who Are You Anyway, we ask the question: “What’s the greatest compliment you’ve ever received and why?

17:08: What Are You Diggin’?  I’m diggin’ the movie A Star is Born and Jenny is loving a tool called a kreg jig.

21:10: You Win or You Learn: Jenny’s win this week is about gaining a new perspective on time and space and my learn is a re-learn about accountability for exercise.

25:24: We wrap it up for this week.  Next week, we will check in to see how the relationship challenge is going and then we will be discussing the 2nd Love Language which is Acts of Service


Resources + Links Mentioned in This Episode:


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Book: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman


Quiz: Discover Your Love Language

Podcast: The Minimalists

Movie: A Star is Born

Tool: Kreg Jig


Picture of Jenny’s new desk:

Jenny's Desk

CN Tower

ROM (Royal Ontario Museum)

Key Quotes:


“The 5 love languages are Words of affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of service and Physical touch. Gary Chapman explains that each person has one of these as their primary love language and when it’s used to speak to them, it fills up their Love Tank and makes them feel amazing.  We tend to speak our primary love language and we become confused when our spouse does not understand what we are communicating We are expressing love, the message does not come through because we are speaking what, to them, is a foreign language.   Eg. If my primary love language is words of affirmation, I’m probably more likely to use that language to express love to my partner. “ You are so great, I appreciate you. I’m proud of the good work that you do and the way you support me” …..but if Words of Affirmation isn’t your partner’s love language, you might not get the response you are looking for….maybe they just need a hug (physical touch) or they need you to hang out with them (quality time).  So we need to learn our partner’s primary love language and then begin speaking it to them!” –Peggy explaining some basic concepts from the book that this month’s challenge is based on.


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What was your biggest take away from this episode? Let us know if you took the quiz to find out which is your primary love language? How about your spouse, or your child? This can be super enlightening and provide a cool foundation to better communicate how you feel to the people you love. Also, let us know what is the greatest compliment you ever received and why?

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The Improvement Project podcast is hosted by Dr. Peggy Malone and Jenny Couse.  Peggy is a health care provider who encourages her patients every day to create better habits associated with their health and wellness.  She is wife to John and mom to fur baby Calvin the fat orange cat.  Dr. Peggy is also a human being on a mission to create better habits for herself and by doing so, she hopes to inspire others to take up the challenge with her!  Jenny is a marketing professional in the international trade sector.  She and her husband Jeff are parents to hilarious 5 year old Ethan.  Her year of monthly habit resolutions in 2015 piqued her interests in how habits are created and best kept.

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Until next time,


Let’s get to work on improving your most important project.  That’s YOU!  Stay focused and get after it!

Thank you so much for listening.

Big Love,

Peggy and Jenny